61 Why do we avoid love? Because it requires us to grow up in the fullest sense of the word. Hardly a person wants –really wants– that responsibility and the effort that comes with it.
62 It takes courage to love what you do not love. – that is the strength of it.
63 If we want to love, to be loving, then the first thing to do is simply to practice love. This does not mean you will in disposition be loving — meaning: have the feeling or right sensitivity and understanding of what it means to be loving — but you will have, at minimum, the right intention behind your acts of love.
64 When we’re angry, disappointed, dissatisfied in ourselves, it is not at all easy to be pleasant to be thoughtful, or considerate of others. And so, if we want to love, we’re going to have to get to the root of this anger, disappointment, dissatisfaction
65 Love does not say, “Oh, you’re not pleasant or courteous to me, so I won’t be to you.” No, love wants no return; it must act as it does.
66 Love, if properly gauged, can reconcile enemies.
67 Love is the only salvation — for me; perhaps for you too; and then perhaps not.
68 Love does not boast of itself; it hesitates to speak of itself.
69 “What is that you say? You don’t want to be loved, only to love? Are you superior to me? I don’t want your love, thank you.”
70 Why the repugnance when we observe what we consider an unctuous loving attitude in others? Is it that we know it can’t be real, because we know how difficult it is to make the effort to rise to a level of warm, engaging feeling for others — unless, of course, the effort is really for one’s own good.
71 Yes, you may heal the body by your psychic powers, but can your powers heal my anguished soul? Not likely. Only love can perform that miracle; and that love does not issue from human response, except in radiance.
72 The way to happiness? Put love into thought and practice.
73 How do we offset our little annoyances at others, but by … yes, you guessed it: love.
74 Listening with lively interest, asking questions, etc. is endearing, enduring facets of love.
75 Love easily defers to others; but not at the cost of one’s own respect.
76 You watch how fast your love goes out the window when your best-made plans are thwarted by someone — unless, of course, you are well seasoned in the way of love.
77 If I am to live love am I no longer to be privy to gossip, to jibes, to barbs, to anger outbursts against others? Am I to be naught but compassionate? Understanding? Only to see the good in people? Will I not be an utter bore to others? That is the dilemma one has to come resolve within himself — if ever he can.
78 As a disciple of love, your task is to make it possible for others to love: to love themselves, to love you, to love others — not possessively, but affectionately.
79 She’s angry with you. At least you make an attempt to make amends. If she is not receptive, then you don’t push it. Wait it out until she comes around. This is the judgment needed.
80 With love abides judgment — rational and irrational!
The Love Testament 